4 Red Flags Your Partner Is Honestly A Bad Influence, So Be Careful

Addiction is no joke, and because of that, Safran points out that if your partner has addiction-like qualities, it's important to be careful when approaching the subject.

"I think you have to tread lightly," Safran tells Elite Daily. "I think the thing is, see how they respond in terms of if you think they drink too much alcohol, if you ask to do more alcohol-free type of things. If you know they smoke a lot of pot, you can flat out say, 'Hey, can we try a week without?' If they like to gamble, you know, again, kind of push it toward, 'Hey, can we focus instead on saving for the vacation?'"

While I'm all for a partner with strong family values, I'm also all for a partner who can make their own decisions without always having to consult their family first. Safran says that if your partner can't make decisions without talking to a family member, if they have to get together with their family religiously, and if every holiday has to be spent with their family only, it's not healthy. “I think it’s under-reported how much enmeshment can destroy relationships,” she elaborates.

Safran also mentions that, similar to addiction, the family issue should be approached with caution. "If you go and say, ‘Your family’s f*cking crazy,’ it’s probably not going to go very well," she says.

She explains if you approach your partner about their family in a way that shows you're trying to work with them instead of against them, you're more likely to have a positive outcome.

Wish notes that there's a line between your partner pushing you to challenge yourself and your partner pushing you challenge your self-worth.

“If your partner is pushing you to challenge yourself and to be your best, that creates anxiety, but it’s a kind of anxiety that accompanies things that help you grow," Wish tells Elite Daily. "But, if your partner is pushing you to do things that challenge your values and your sense of self-worth, those are red flags that you should be looking for — when your partner is asking you to diminish your self-respect, to drop your standards of values.”

Being sexually adventurous is one thing, but being coerced into doing something sexually adventurous that you don't want to do is not OK.

"You know the red flags are flying when your partner asks you to do things sexually that demean you," Wish explains. "We like to think that we’re all so sexually liberated and informed, but it isn’t true. Not everyone is comfortable doing sexual things that you think are normal and typical. So, be careful in making assumptions about what other people’s comfort levels are."

It's crucial to establish boundaries in any relationship. If one of the partners feels like their boundaries aren't being respected, it can be a bad sign for the relationship itself.

If you find yourself noticing that your partner may be showing any of these red flags, you may want to step back from the relationship and try to look at it from an outsider's perspective. Do you think your partner is a bad influence on your life? Do any of these red flags sound familiar? If your answer is "yes," or even "maybe," it might be best to have a serious conversation with your partner, seek professional help, or, worst case scenario, rethink the relationship entirely.

"Know who you are," Wish advises, if you see any of these red flags. "Have a safety plan if your partner has a history of abuse or if you fear your partner, and don’t do anything that’s against your values." Remember, you should never feel like you have to do something that hinders your self-worth and/or values. Those are two of your most precious attributes.

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