8 Signs Your Partner Isn't Your Soulmate, Because Life Is Way Too Short

Gunsaullus tells Elite Daily that one of the most telltale signs that your partner isn't your soulmate is when you don't want the same things. And no, this doesn't mean you can't agree on what to have for dinner — although, personally, this is high on my priority list — but more so that you don't share the same life goals.

Whether you want a college education, to travel the world, or the more serious stuff like marriage and kids, it can be important that your ideas about adulting align with your partner's. This isn't to say that every single one of your goals needs to match with theirs — compromise is key — but if you don't see your lives lining up in the long-term, your current SO might not be your soulmate.

Bela Gandhi, president at Smart Dating Academy, a date coaching firm, says that if you don't miss your partner when you're not with them, this could be a bad sign. If "you feel relieved, like a weight has been lifted, [or] you relish your time without" them, your relationship might not be the forever kind.

Almost everyone enjoys a night alone once in a while, so you can't necessarily assume that it means your relationship won't survive. But if the spark has fizzled out, it might be a good idea to talk things out before jumping the gun on a breakup. "Have a heart-to-heart and be respectful of their emotions and needs," Gunsaullus recommends.

According to Samantha Burns, relationship expert and author of Breaking Up & Bouncing Back, another relationship red flag is when you're not behaving like the best version of yourself. Your partner should bring out the best in you, but if you're experiencing "negative emotions such as jealousy, insecurity, depression, crying, anger, or anxiety, this is a strong indicator you’re not with your soulmate," she explains.

However, if you're feeling like you're not acting like yourself lately, your partner might not be the cause. Before calling it quits on the relationship, try to self-reflect on your recent behavior or talk to a trusted friend about how you've been feeling.

Dr. Shannon Chavez, licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist tells Elite Daily that if your boo isn't the one, you "may notice there is no trust in the relationship." Trust is the glue that holds a relationship together. So, if your boyfriend or girlfriend is acting sus all the time or constantly questioning you, it might be time to reassess the relationship.

Some people have trust issues based on past relationships, which can be tough to move past. However, talking to your partner about why you don't trust them, even if it's for an irrational reason, can help build certainty.

Gandhi says that if you can't confide in your partner or tell them things that are important to you, it could be a sign that things are heading south. Do you find yourself thinking your SO "will be dismissive or non-empathic" when you share something serious with them? Do "you find yourself telling other friends" instead? If this is a pattern, I'm sorry to say that they might not be your soulmate.

But before you break things off, keep in mind that being unable to confide in your boo could just be an indication that you're a little guarded or are more used to talking to your girlfriends about the serious stuff. If that's the case, try talking to your SO about something that's been on your mind lately. You never know — they could be really supportive!

Healthy relationships are a two-way street, so if "you feel like you’re giving more than you’re receiving," it could be a bad sign, according to Burns. When you're with the right person, "an equal balance of effort is being invested into the relationship," she adds.

Do you feel like you show up more for your partner than they do for you? When you send them a sweet text, do you not always get one in return? If you're feeling off-balance with bae, let them know it's bugging you. They might just be busy or stressed with school or work. Sometimes, communication is all it takes to get back on track.

If there are some dealbreakers you just can't get over in a relationship, Lisa Marie Bobby, founder and clinical director at Growing Self Counseling & Coaching, says to ask yourself if it's something you can live with. And "if the answer is no, do not make the mistake of thinking they might change," she advises. So, if your SO lives at home with their parents or parties a little too hard, and you just can't deal, you may never be able to.

Everyone has different deal breakers, so it's up to you to decide what you can deal with in a relationship. Does your partner do something that annoys you but that you think you can move past? Sometimes, when everything else is going right, it's worth it to let the little things go.

According to Dr. Chavez, your partner might not be your soulmate if you find yourself "fantasizing about being with someone else who is a better match." Whether you have a specific person in mind or just someone who would be more compatible with you and your #goals in general, it may be a good idea to reevaluate your current situation.

Of course, it's totally normal to feel attracted to other people while you're in a relationship, so don't feel too guilty about a far-off crush or noticing a hottie while in line at Trader Joe's. But if you find yourself constantly imagining that you're dating someone else, it could be an indicator that your SO isn't the one.

If someone isn't your soulmate, that doesn't necessarily mean you should stop dating them. Just remember that only person who can decide if you're in the right relationship is you. Even if your current partner isn't your forever bae, keep doing you, 'cause you'll find your soulmate eventually.