How I Found My Place In A New Town After College, Because Sometimes The Struggle Is Real

We dream of meeting our best friends in yoga class or meeting our soulmates in the local coffee shop, but relationships don't always come together as easily as that. After attending several events in town, I decided to tap into my online social networks to build friendships.

I began attending events through a website called Meetup that shines a spotlight on cool meetups in your area. Some websites and apps are actually great resources to expand your social circle. It may seem a bit unusual to make plans with strangers from the internet at first, but I quickly discovered that there are so many of us out there searching for friendship.

My company held a variety of employee events, so I was sure to take advantage of every opportunity to get involved at work. I attended speed networking events and signed up for volunteer opportunities. This helped me find my place in a new work environment and city. Before I knew it, these work friends turned into best friends that I could go to happy hour with and take weekend road trips with.

Moving to a new city will give you the perfect excuse to play tourist. I took full advantage of the opportunity to try new restaurants, bars, and city attractions. I committed myself to visiting a different restaurant every time I went out to eat. I spent weekends strolling around the San Antonio Pearl Brewery and checking out new stops at the San Antonio Riverwalk. I was able to discover new places while establishing local favorites. This process helped me become a regular at coffee shops and brunch spots, so San Antonio eventually began to feel like home. When you become a tourist in your new city, you give yourself something to look forward to and be excited about.

It's normal to feel isolated when you move to a new city alone, so it's important to take initiative if you want to break out of your shell. I began saying yes to every happy hour and gym invitation that came my way. I had to step outside of my comfort zone in order to make new friends and feel at home in a place that felt so foreign.

It can easy to become discouraged when you've been in your new city for six months and you still feel out of place. I had to face the fact that establishing myself in a new city would take time. Instead of getting frustrated, I found different ways to fill gaps of time and practiced patience. I called up my friends back home for moral support and learned to spend the alone time that I had to reflect on and plan my new chapter. It's crucial to understand that change can be extraordinary, it just takes time to embrace.