6 Empowering Things To Tell Yourself If You Can't Help But Think You Won't Find Love
Being single can come with a ton of pressure. If all of the negativity surrounding finding someone to spend your life with is getting to your head and making you think you'll never find love, you definitely aren't the only one. Take it from me, someone who used to be a serial single lady: There's absolutely no reason to panic about being single. Yes, there are perks that come with being in a great relationship, but the truth is, great relationships aren't so easy to come by.
Sometimes, when you've been perpetually single, it can start to seem like everyone around you is blissfully paired off, and you've been purposely left alone to suffer, but I promise you, this couldn't be further from the truth. So many people, even your close friends, probably aren't telling you about all of the less-than-perfect things that happen in their relationships.
If there's one thing I wish I could go back and tell my single self, it would be to relax and to enjoy every part of being completely free and independent. You can go on a date with whomever you want, go home with whomever you want, and live your life however you want.
Of course, if you want to meet someone new, then spend some time thinking about the type of people you'd like to meet and put yourself in positions where you're likely to meet that type of person. But in the meantime, if you start feeling discouraged, here are six things to tell yourself when you're feeling like anything less than a million bucks.
1. "Being Single Is Better Than Being In The Wrong Relationship." — Unknown
Straight up, there's nothing wrong with feeling lonely from time to time, but never forger that by choosing to wait for someone you feel is deeply worthy of your attention, you're also acknowledging how valuable you are. Being in a relationship purely for the sake of having someone couldn't be a bigger waste of your time.
2. "The Most Profound Relationship We'll Ever Have Is The One With Ourselves." — Shirley MacLaine
It's true. At the end of the day, how you treat yourself is of the utmost importance. You are complete and whole all on your own — having a partner is just a bonus.
3. "S.I.N.G.L.E = Strong, Independent, Noticeable, Generous, Loving, Enlightened" — Unknown
Don't lose sight of all the amazing qualities you have that are worth celebrating! You don't need a partner to enjoy the special and beautiful parts of yourself. By reveling in what it means to be your best self, you'll be sure to attract people who value you in the ways you deserve to be valued.
4. "Being Single Used To Mean Nobody Wanted You. Now, It Means You're Pretty, Sexy, and You're Taking Your Time Deciding How You Want Your Life To Be And Who You Want To Spend It With." — Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
Just because you're single, doesn't mean nobody wants to date you. It means you're taking charge of your future and being cautious about the people you allow to get close to you. There's nothing wrong with being picky, and there's absolutely no need to lower your standards for anyone.
5. "Being Single Means You’re Strong Enough To Wait For What You Deserve." — Niall Horan
You deserve to be with someone who adds to your happiness and contributes to your life in a meaningful way — however you define that. Waiting for someone who treats you like the queen you are just means that, once you finally do meet them, you're going to be able to give yourself to them fully.
6. "Relationship Status: Sleeping In Your Bed Diagonally." — Unknown
Let's be real: Very few of us relish in how amazing it is to be able to take full advantage of sleeping on the entire bed, until someone's there hogging most of it. Sleep diagonally, sleep sideways, sleep perpendicular, sleep spread eagle while you can — the sky's the limit.
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