What To Do If Your Crush Isn’t Picking Up On Your Signals, According To Matchmakers

Listen, in this world of online dating and dating apps, it's kind of gotten a little difficult to remember how to connect in person. But for matchmaker Brooke Wise, of Wise Matchmaking, there's really nothing like some good, classic sexy eyes.

"If you are interested in someone, engage with them and make eye contact," Wise tells Elite Daily. "Good old fashioned flirting, active listening and having a conversation about mutual interests (outside of work and past relationships)," are all ways to engage with someone that can send a good, strong signal. "Truly making a connection is critical, making eye contact, smiling, laughing, making him/her laugh, buying her a drink, asking for her number… these are all ways to show someone you are interested."

So basically, before you get too frustrated that they aren't picking up on your signals, make sure you're sending the right ones.

While you might not realize it, you could actually be sending some signals that aren't so good, too. According to Wise, "Looking at your phone and not paying attention to someone is a sure-fire way to show that you are not interested."

Even though it can be hard to resist the temptation of checking your phone while you're with someone, Wise insists that if you're doing that, the other person might not realize that you are, in fact, interested.

But maybe you've been as flirty as you can, and you've tried everthing you know to do, and they just aren't picking up on it. At that point, you might need to step a little outside your comfort zone. Matchmaker Stef Safran, Chicago's Introductionista, tells Elite Daily that reaching out to see if the person you're interested in wants to hang out is a good way to step above those little flirty signals.

"Scheduling time, 'hey how about we go to blank,'" she says as a suggestion, continuing, "one-on-one time shows interest." It might be a little scary to initiate a one-on-one hangout, but by being casual and not putting the pressure of calling it a "date," you have a greater chance of enjoying each other's company and hopefully getting your interest across.

You could be complimenting someone constantly, making them laugh, and even sharing a common bond, but that doesn't mean they're picking up on your signals. For Safran, there's still more you can do to make your interest known. "I think one of the things I always say is touching someone on the hand, the shoulders," she explains. "Personal touch makes a big difference. Good eye contact makes a big difference."

Maybe by gently, consensually touching someone on their wrist or shoulder you can get that electricity flowing, and then your signals will have a greater chance of being picked up on.

Now, if you're feeling like all your signals are being ignored, or just aren't noticed, then Safran suggests talking in person rather than over text or social media.

"Writing a text that says 'hey I like you,' or anything else doesn't bring a point across," she says. "Having a convo in person can help, because you can see a reaction instead of picking apart a text." Basically, the best signals are sent in person, and Safran emphasizes that you can't act like you're on a dating app and only rely on digital interactions all the time. Connections take time, and if you're struggling trying to get someone to pick up on your signals, definitely try these tips out before giving up. Or sending a drunk text, obviously.

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