If You’re Scared To Text Your Crush First, Repeat These 9 Mantras

Even if your crush is seeing someone else or isn't interested in dating right now, they might still be excited to hang out with you. Sending the first text can open the door to friendship, if not a romantic relationship, and your crush will be delighted you suggested it!

Sure, people can give off clues that they're interested in someone — body language says something, but not everyone expresses visible interest. The only way to find out for sure if your crush is interested is to text them. You won't know until you try, so you might as well try!

I get very turned on by a confident person. Someone who knows what they want and isn't afraid to tell me — there's nothing better. As long as you're respecting your crush's boundaries, putting yourself out there can demonstrate confidence, which very well could be sexy to them!

I've wasted hours of my life waiting for someone to send the first text. When I take the reins and do it myself, I get to control my own time. I send the text and wait for a response, which usually comes within an hour or so (even if it's a "no"). Instead of waiting days for someone to text, take back your own time! It can be efficient.

It's totally normal to be nervous, but let me ask you this: If a friend said to you, "I met someone, they asked for my number, and then texted me, 'you seem really cool, want to hang out sometime'," are you embarrassed for that person? Or do they seem like a normal, confident human expressing interest? If your crush hasn't done anything to already express a lack of interest, there's nothing wrong with trying. Of course, you never want to make someone uncomfortable by repeatedly texting when they've asked you not to, but sending one opening text to someone you've met is totally OK.

Your crush may very well but interested, but scared to show it. People are shy, and sending the first text is hard. So, take back control and send it yourself — if they're shy but looking to get to know you, they may be so relieved you asked.

Even if it doesn't work out with your crush, you'll know that you did it and didn't die! Seriously, no one's ever died from sending the first text. You'll now have it as a skill, and you can use it to meet other people in the future.

Texting first allows you to take back control of your love life. Instead of waiting around and expending mental energy, you get to decide what you want. You don't need to limit your dating pool to people who've expressed interest in you — you can express interest in them.

And who wouldn't want to date you? If this person doesn't want to go out with you for any reason, that's honestly their loss, and you'll find someone better.

Sending the first text to a crush can be terrifying. Watching those bubbles go up and down — it's like a roller coaster without the long lines and $14 popcorn. It's totally normal to be scared to send the first text, but you're ready to do it. Repeat these nine mantras, take some deep breaths, and get ready to type. And no matter what — you'll find someone incredible to be with (if you're looking for a relationship), whether it's this crush or not.