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Wife Of 'Sex Spreadsheet' Maker Gives The Response We've All Been Waiting For

by Alexia LaFata
Stocksy

Recall this spreadsheet of a sexually frustrated husband whose wife wouldn't let him get some no matter how hard he tried.

The wife received lots of criticism for her continual refusals to have sex with her man, but she's posted a response to those who've criticized her:

Our sex life HAS tapered in the last few months, but isn't that allowed? We are adults leading busy, stressful lives. I cook for him, I do his laundry, I keep our house clean and tidy. It's not like our sex life was going to be this way FOREVER, it was a temporary slow-down due to extenuating circumstances.

It's a good thing for her husband that this is temporary, but her response might add support to the old adage that men enjoy sex more than women (which definitely isn't true).

What, then, might cause such a rumor? What could make so many angry Internet commenters criticize this woman for not wanting to have sex?

The answer may come via the "orgasm gap," a term among sex researchers that explores the unequal distribution of orgasms between women and men.

survey of American adults discovered that men have three times as many orgasms as women. And it's not biological, either: a woman takes about the same amount of time to orgasm as a man.

It's true that orgasming isn't what makes sex great, but the real root of the issue may be that men don't focus on their partners' pleasure as often as they should.

Most women, 75 percent, can't reach orgasm from just penetration, so partners really have to put in some work for their ladies to reach the big O.

I don't want to make assumptions about what goes on in the bedrooms of other couples, but perhaps this husband should make his wife's pleasure just as important as his own, and learn where and what the clitoris is.

If he works on blowing his wife's mind to the point where she wants to have sex with him, rather than just demanding she act as a blow-up doll, she'll probably want to have sex with him. Just my opinion.

H/T: Huffington Post, Photo Courtesy: Fanpop